Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Did my decision was been wrong?

Hello guys,it is Tuesday again.First of all i wanna to thank again to those who been commenting and send a very nice messages and also advice with me.As a new blogger here but not so totally new.My blog here it is all about happening in my life,everyday ,tomorrow,yesterday,before,last time.Today,i am doing laundry,first my auntie make a laundry with there clothes then i am helping too.Then,after that i am laundrying my many dirty clothes i been finished almost 4 pm here at Philippines.While i am doing visited many sites here at EC i been thinking what i need to post here tonight.Any way,this blog is about my life is full up and down.Regarding about problems,is not financially i been always thinking and also i been always thinking did my decision was been wrong?From the beginning,before we been meeting my hubby in person i been sharing with him all my background that i am a working student,work as a housemaid,very poor family,i am the eldest out of 4 brothers and one sister,my father was been accident,so because father was been accident we having problem finnacial as this time and while i am studying my little salary i supposed to give them and about my personality i am tanned and having spots of my leegs so meaning i am not flawless,not good looking face,simple and conservative.Then,my hubby was been told me he is not poor,he is not rich he is normal and having good job at newspaper,he was said too he don't care all about my background he wanted a nice woman, kind,fit,slim.I don't want to shared this with you all but i want to express my deeply feeling about my situation now i am marrying a Norwegian man but is not easy!You know why much people thinking if we are marrying foreign man they are thinking we had much money.I am talking now about this did my decision was wrong?From we been meeting to my hubby at first time we been visiting at mountain to my family.Then,this time we been talking my mother and she was said she don't like him then i been shocked and realizing why?Until the time my hubby was decided to marry with me and prupose only at chat,then i been agreed and was said yes,why not!Until he was back here at Philippines on june 2008 to marry with me.Hubby wanted only simple wedding not much people and we are budgeting about money.The tradition here at Phils,much food to prepared because much people will attend.We been quarel to my mother about budgeting she was not agreed to the money i was giving here for food at mountain it's because she think is not enough and i been crying and hubby worried and he decided the money for food at mountain must better to save it and maybe can used it for everything for food ,medicine and for connect power but mother was said she was already inviting for many relatives and neighbors for this ocassion so the party at mountain continued and they was using those only money and they can do budgeting.And while many months from we been married,no more changed my situation now and hubby supporting for only with me.But because the sitaution of my family needed, i shared the little transferring with them and it is not enough with them.They think now hubby is very cheaped man.Because only little transferring i got.Last time,we been talking about those filipina girl married foreigner and mother she was compared that why this woman can do connect electricity power,buy a lot and making house,then they can recieve much money.And she said,i told you before that she don't like my hubby.She thinks that my hubby is cheap man.She blame with me must better i did not marry with him,must better i marry as like with me filipino it's becuase it is the same my situation now.Then,i been crying last day when we been quarell again and talk about financial,and she was said again must better i am marrying filipino,but we have nothing can do now because i am already with him.She blame with me that i am wrong to marry my hubby and i did not listening with her before and she said too she did not believe to my hubby.And i'd always thinking now,what i been wrong?It's because i marry a norwegian man then he is cheap?Did i am wrong to decide to chose him as my partner!Yeah,he is older than with me and also to my parents.Did i am doing wrong that i been following my real feeling with him.!He is only man i been meeting about relationship and what is the wrong i decided?I know age doesn't matter but why my mother do this to me?Even mother do this with me but she still my mother.Sometimes i can answer with her then she thinks that i am changing now,so i just keep only my words not to answer with her.And i am only crying,every night i will be crying thinking all about this blaming,blaming.Sorry i having writed here some hurtly words but this is what happened with me now.Is not easy to fall in love to foreign man.As my experiences now it's very difficult.Happy Tuesday guys.


Lanie said...

Hi Julieta, you know what, you did the right decession to marry your husband even his older than you as long, you both in love and care to each other, if your mother interfer about marrying your husband. You are a married woman now, that you mother can't change. Your hubby is right to spend the amount of money in your town. No matter how much you spend on your wedding still the talk of the town. just ignore those people and your mother saying you should marry a Filipino. She is wrong judgement of foriegner is cheap. Your husband must trying to save money for your upcoming visa and plane ticket plus then when you finally reunited you have a nice place to live compared what you have now. You might your mother think your husband is rich and comparing what your neighbor who is married to a foriegner as well, well she don't know the situation in foriegn country if they're living rich. Your life will be different with your loving husband full of love, happiness and healthy life. Be strong and don't get tempted to other people. When your in norway soon you will have to decide whether to help your family or not and how much your will be sending. Right now your husband not sending too much because his saving some money for sure. If you marry a Filipino I don't think you have a great life unless you marry a man that has a good job and will be willing to help your family. Na sige take it easy and keep praying for your visa so you will be with your husband soon. Ignore the gossip and talk of your mother. Good luck and hope your visa will approved soon. tc

julieta said...

Hi Lanie,
yeah,you all right..i don't care what the other people saying.And thank you very much for your conservation messages and advices with me..

anne said...

Girl, Your decision to marry your husband is not wrong. Money can't buy happiness. What matters most is you and husband love for each other. Your a married person now, whatever problem your mom has is none of your business anymore. She don't have any right to judge any person nor she don't have any right to demand you any money, now its up to you to help them but she should not insist you. and lanie is right your husband maybe just saving on ure visa and plane tickets to go there. Girl I tell you its not very easy coz economy crisis hitting all over places even in the states even in norway. So take it easy and pray that your mom realizes that to marry a foreigner doesnt mean you could buy anything that you like nor you could be living like a princess. Every one of us should strive hard to reach our dreams, we will will get successful if we just depend ourselves to others. We should work hard for it.

Love is the greatest thing that ever happen to all of us. so take care of it. Don't mind other people.

julieta said...

Hi Anne,
Wow,i did not expected you and also Lanie gives a very nice messages with me..Yeah,both of you i been impressed and understand with me..Thanks..

Babette said...

Hello Julieta, I agree with Lanie and Anne. It seems your mother was expecting too much from your husband financially. What matters most is you both love each other and he will treat you right.

julieta said...

Hi Babette,
Thanks for youre all nice messages with me.